Well in last week’s episode, they settled the issue. Yes, he got the sort of girl he’d always insisted on, but they made it clear that he only closed the deal because of what he had learned over the last nine seasons.
Even though, in the main narrative of the show, he still hasn’t met her yet, we flashed forward to the premature ending of their first date, as she decides that it’s too soon after the end of her engagement and cuts things short, even though he’s in the middle of telling one of his patented long stories. So what does he do? He accepts this, says good night, and walks away without looking back. As he does, we hear his retrospective narration telling his kids his corrected statement of philosophy:
- Eight years earlier, I probably would have given some embarrassing speech, confessed my love, and scared her off, but I didn’t, because somehow I just knew that this was all going to work out.
So now we know the solution: Ted never changes what he wants, but he has to change himself in order to get it. This moment neatly flips the reversible behavior he showed in the pilot at the end of his first date with Robin, when he blew it by forcing the issue.